Having a boyfriend is a normal part of growing up for most teens, says Kate Fogarty, an assistant professor in the Department of Family, Youth and Community Sciences at the University of Florida, writing for the University of Florida Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences Extension. If you're emotionally ready to deal with a relationship, having a boyfriend can help you develop skills that will serve you well later in life.
Step 1
Develop self-esteem by appreciating your talents. You're more likely to attract a boyfriend if you feel good about yourself, relationship psychologist Jim Houran said in Cosmopolitan magazine.
Step 2
Volunteer after school or on the weekend to a charity or cause you care about. Not only will you increase your social circle, you'll also meet boys who care about the same things you do, says Rabbi Shmuley Boteach on Oprah.com.
Step 3
Sign up for classes and activities that are interesting to you. Boys tend to notice girls who have active interests, says Houran, and the more you do, the more likely you are to meet interesting guys.
Step 4
Let your friends know you're looking for a boyfriend, recommends Rabbi Shmuley. They know you well and might be able to help you find a love connection.
Step 5
Express your opinions and ideas, even if they're different from your potential boyfriend's. Keeping quiet about what you think makes you less interesting.
Step 6
Move slowly into physical relationships with boys. Though you might have strong feelings for a boy, most teens aren't emotionally prepared for a physical relationship, says Fogarty. If you make out with lots of guys looking for a boyfriend, you might develop a reputation that makes it harder for a boy to consider you girlfriend material.
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