Verbal abuse in a relationship occurs when one partner is constantly critcizing or berating the other. A person may feel constantly blamed or made fun of. This is all emotionally damaging, and over time, may erode someone's self-confidence or self-worth. Recognize the signs of a verbally abusive relationship and take steps to fix it or leave it.
Step 1
Hear what is being said. Words can hurt as much as physical abuse, and verbal abuse is more than name calling. Verbal abuse can be threatening, taunting, constantly criticizing or frequently correcting "wrong" behavior.
Step 2
Recognize the signs. Someone who is verbally abused feels afraid of her partner most of the time. She may avoid bringing up certain topics for fear of angering her partner, and she may feel she cannot do anything to please her partner much of the time. She may feel emotionally numb or helpless, or believe she deserves to be yelled at or mistreated.
Step 3
Talk to the abuser. Let him know that his behavior is not acceptable. Let him know how much his words hurt. Discuss ways both parties can change in order to change the relationship. If necessary, seek counseling to discuss your feelings with a qualified counselor.
Step 4
Stay calm. At the moment the abuse is occurring, try not to become agitated. Let the person vent without challenging or responding to his actions.
Step 5
Leave. There is no reason to stay in an emotionally abusive relationship. There are many resources available to help people who have been in abusive relationships, including the National Domestic Violence Hotline and The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. These organizations can help you plot a course of action, as well as help you to cope with your feelings and emotions.
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