Whether you end your relationship, or your partner ends it, you can suffer from a broken heart. The finality of a relationship can mean the end of hopes and dreams of a future together, the loss of a best friend and loneliness. The University of California at Riverside recommends acknowledging that each breakup is unique, and that recovering from this loss can take time. Be patient and kind to yourself during this process. Once you've dealt with your feelings, you can begin to turn the situation into something more positive by keeping busy and working on yourself.
Step 1
Tell your closest friends and family members how you're feeling, and ask them for support, Helpguide.org suggests. You might feel like isolating yourself by not getting out of bed, but that won't help your situation. Instead, push yourself to spend time with your loved ones.
Step 2
Schedule time to spend with people at the beginning of each week, and try to connect with someone each day. For instance, you might have lunch with your sister one day, call a friend to catch up for 10 minutes the next day and then take a walk with a neighbor after work on the third day.
Step 3
Make a list of things you've always wanted to have more time to do. Join a book club, develop your art skills or take surfing lessons. Now's the time to take advantage of your independence. You'll be less likely to stay focused on your loss if you try new things, because you'll need all of your focus devoted to learning a new skill.
Step 4
Carry out at least one item from your list during the next week. Trying something new will also help to boost your self-confidence, which should help you in future relationships.
Step 5
Focus on improving yourself. Look at each area of your life, including friendships and other relationships, school or work and physical health. Write down each category, and then write down how you think you're doing in each one on a scale of one to 10. Figure out where you could improve. For instance, you might have let your friendships slide since you've been in a romantic relationship, really hate your job or struggle with your health because you're overweight. Take this time to start improving those areas of your life.
Step 6
Pick one attribute you want to change, and write down specific, actionable goals. If you want to lose weight to improve your health, your specific goal could be to lose 2 lb. per week for two months. During that time, you'll keep yourself busy by exercising regularly and keeping track of your eating habits.
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