The popular saying that "Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus" may have a grain of truth to it after all. Plenty of women have found themselves trying to decode men's actions in order to determine what they truly feel. Sometimes it's not easy to understand the opposite sex, and some men may not just come right out and say that they care, though if you take time to look, you'll find they express their feelings in other ways.
Step 1
Ask him to do a difficult or time consuming favor for you, such as helping you clean out your garage or changing the oil in your car. If a man cares for you, he'll probably agree to help you with even the most aggravating task, because it means he'll get to spend time with you, says Streeter Seidel in Seventeen Magazine.
Step 2
Invite him along on random errands, such as a trip to the grocery store, and pay attention to him when he makes the same invitations. This shows that a man wants you around for whatever reason and wants to get to know you, says Rich Santos, author of Marie Claire magazine's column, "Sex and the Single Guy."
Step 3
Call him late at night, and ask him if he has time to talk. If he's happy to hear from you, even at four in the morning on a work night, that shows he cares, says Seventeen Magazine's author Seidel.
Step 4
Invite him to hang out with you and your friends. Men who care will want to get to know the important people in your life, says Seidel. If he's nice to your friends and takes an interest in becoming a part of your everyday social life, this shows he wants to stick around.
Step 5
Pay attention to when he sends you text messages or emails. Sending messages between noon and 5 p.m. shows that he thinks about you during the day and wants to contact you early enough to make plans later, says Cosmopolitan Magazine author, Jake Hurwitz.
Step 6
Note the times he asks you to spend extra time with him. If he asks you to join him for dinner after a movie, or for a walk after dinner, this shows that he enjoys your company and doesn't want to part ways, says Marie Claire's Rich Santos.
Step 7
Watch his body language. "Before developing speech, we communicated with our bodies," says director of the Center for Nonverbal Studies in Spokane, Washington, David B. Givens, PhD. Look for signs of positive body language, such as leaning in towards you when you speak or sitting close to you with his chest pointed in your direction.
Tips and Warnings
- A man who cares for you may worry about your safety. For example, he may want to walk you to your car at night, or ask you to call him when your plane lands safely. If he takes an interest in things you like, or remembers little things you enjoy, this also shows he cares.
- Watch out for men who text message you after 11 p.m., especially when they're drunk, because it might be a "booty call," says Cosmopolitan's Jake Hurwitz.
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