No one enjoys rejection. One of the main reasons you may avoid asking a girl out is because you're afraid she'll turn you down, wounding your pride and your ego. Rejection is a common fear for most men when it comes to dating; men usually are responsible for making the first move. Everyone deals with rejection eventually. Learn how to overcome your fears--don't let previous experiences stop you from asking a girl out.
Step 1
Develop your self-confidence; low self-esteem isn't an attractive trait. Women often are attracted to men who display a certain level of self-assurance. Focus on accentuating your positive attributes, but don't overdo it--you don't want your potential date to think you're arrogant.
Step 2
Enhance your physical appearance. Get a new haircut or buy a new outfit. Keep yourself well-groomed. Don't wear wrinkled or stained clothing. When you look good, you'll feel more confident and less fearful when you ask a girl out.
Step 3
Get to know her as a person. Before you ask a woman for a date, find out her likes and dislikes. This will help you figure out where to take her if she accepts your invitation. For example, if you ask her to join you for dinner at an Indian restaurant, she may turn you down just because she dislikes that type of food. Invite her to a restaurant or event you know she'll enjoy.
Step 4
Set reasonable expectations. Realize that it's normal to get rejected from time to time--it's difficult to find someone you like and who likes you back. Most people are picky and it will take multiple tries before you find the right match, according to the book "Preparing for Life" by Dr. Jed Baker.
Step 5
Relax and focus on your breathing. When you finally decide to make your move, calm yourself as much as possible. Most nervousness stems from worries about being judged or acting foolish, according to "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Dating" by psychologist Judy Kuriansky. Avoid shallow breathing, which will make you more nervous and anxious. Keep yourself centered--focus on taking deep, relaxing breaths originating from your abdominal area.
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