If you feel all aspects of your life are handled and you don't have a special someone to share your joy with, it may be time to find a serious boyfriend. You don't have to be single at your next holiday dinner or company trip. If you want someone you can share a meaningful future with, you can make it a reality in a matter of days.
Step 1
Make a list of at least 10 single guys you already know. Cross off the ones who do not share your values. Prioritize by attraction. Get the phone number or email of each. Ask friends and family, or look the men up on a social network like Facebook if you don't already have their information.
Step 2
Schedule as many dates as possible for Day 1. Make your dates back to back; quantity counts. You will know which guys you have more fun and instant chemistry with when you are with all of them in a short period of time. Ask important questions about values and interests. "Answer his questions with energy and genuine enthusiasm," writes Patti Stanger, Bravo's "Millionaire Matchmaker," on Oprah.com.
Step 3
Narrow down your search and meet with your top three guys on the second day. Make the date simple yet interactive. Cosmopolitan recommends, "Hit balls at the batting cage, race go-carts, challenge him to a round of mini golf, and, if you live near a boardwalk, play a few games and try to win a stuffed animal." Gauge your top three on body language and interaction to help narrow down to your No. 1.
Step 4
Invite your No. 1 choice to your house for wine and dinner, which you should make to communicate you are invested in the time you spend together. Gauge his interest in you and the spark you are igniting.
Step 5
Express how you feel. Women's Health suggests keeping it simple such as, "I'm having fun with you, and I don't really want to see other people anymore. Do you?" Letting him know how you feel will show that you are confident and willing to go after what you want.
Tips and Warnings
- Trust your instincts in every situation; it will lead you to Mr. Right. Don't be discouraged if things don't work out. Dating is a screening process that will ultimately lead you to that special someone.
- Don't get caught up in physical attraction alone; it may not lead to the best relationship. Keep character and values in mind when evaluating your potential boyfriend.
Things You'll Need
- Pen
- Paper
- Wine
- Dinner
Member Comments
kirstendella March 30
This is ridiculous--what if you don't know ten single guys? And you're supposed to invite a first date for your house for dinner? Are you out of your mind? What kind of signal does that send, and what about your personal safety? And I'm also pretty sure that saying you don't want to see other people after a first date is going to signal "pyscho stalker" to most men.
kirstendella March 30
Oops, second date. Point still stands.
spaceymacy June 18
No, it's the 3rd date. Which makes all the difference, dud.