Sex drive also goes by the name "libido." Whatever you choose to call it, however, it is a natural part of the body's maturation process that starts around puberty. If all goes well, both men and women will have an elevated sex drive well into old age. But if your wife happens to have a low sex drive, this can eventually lead to a problem with your relationship. Although it might be hard to deal with, there are ways to improve her libido.
Step 1
Have your wife work specific muscles. Working the pelvic floor muscles can help increase libido and make your wife more aware of the pleasurable feeling of sex. To do this, have her act as if she was stopping her urine in mid-stream. Have her hold this contraction for five seconds, have her release and then repeat 10 times. These are called Kegel exercises.
Step 2
Have your wife go for a run. Exercise offers a number of benefits to your wife when she is trying to increase her sex drive. It can elevate her mood, increase her self image, increase her stamina and improve circulation to her whole body, including her sexual organs. Have her do 30 minutes of aerobic exercise five or more days a week. These can include running, biking, swimming, stepping, rowing or walking. To make it more fun and intimate, join in with her.
Step 3
Introduce relaxation techniques to your wife. Stress and anxiety are big contributors to a low sex drive. In order to become more calm, have your wife participate in relaxation activities like yoga, tai-chi, meditative breathing and muscle relaxation. As with exercise, join her to make it more interesting.
Step 4
Make a connection. Open communication with your wife is very important. Talk to her about what you do and don't like, and be honest about what you are feeling. Also, seek the help of a sex therapist where you can both go together to get advice on coping strategies and other treatment options.
Step 5
Get more creative. Boredom in your sex life can lead to a low libido. Shake things up a bit by trying some new things. Have sex in different locations, try some different positions and experiment with sex games or toys.
Step 6
Have your wife eat libido-boosting foods. Garlic contains allicin, which can give the sexual organs an increase in blood flow. Prepare this in some dishes for your wife, or just have her eat it as is. If she does not like the taste or smell, you can get it for her in supplement form.
