A mom-to-be makes changes as soon as she learns of the pregnancy, from improving her diet to avoiding alcohol. She begins bonding with the baby with each movement she feels. Your husband may have more difficulty feeling a connection with the baby and with fatherhood while you are pregnant. Helping your husband prepare for fatherhood may help him feel more involved. The preparation is also a good time to cover baby basics, particularly if your husband has no experience with infants.
Step 1
Invite your husband to your prenatal appointments, particularly for the ultrasound. Your husband will be able to hear firsthand from your doctor how the pregnancy is progressing. He may also have some questions for your doctor about the delivery or pregnancy.
Step 2
Involve your husband in preparing the home for the baby. Ask for his input on decorating the nursery, choosing the baby gear and baby-proofing the home.
Step 3
Discuss parenting topics with your husband so that you are in agreement on how to handle particular situations. Discuss who will handle specific responsibilities once the baby is born, such as cleaning, cooking and getting up at night with the baby.
Step 4
Show sensitivity toward your husband's feelings about the pregnancy, childbirth and fatherhood. Talk about his fears and concerns if he is willing to open up about them.
Step 5
Enroll in childbirth and parenting classes together. Contact your hospital to get a complete prenatal class list. Some hospitals offer special classes just for soon-to-be dads that are taught by other dads.
Step 6
Spend time with other couples who have infants so that your husband can watch other dads in action. Offer to babysit for your friends so that your husband gets a chance to change diapers and hold a small baby.
Step 7
Build your husband's confidence by assuring him he is capable of caring for a baby and that you are in it together. Avoid acting like the expert and constantly correcting your husband when it comes to parenting issues.
