Your wife has moved out and you are left wondering what life will be like without her. After some thinking and chance to calm down from whatever situation caused her to leave, you decide that you miss her and want her to come back home. Now, you are charged with the task of getting her to agree to come back home. In most cases, that is possible as long as you are willing to work with your wife to correct the problems in your relationship.
Step 1
Give your wife space. When your wife left, she was probably hurt and/or angry. While you need to let her know that you would like her to come home, trying to force her to do so or to listen to you may push her farther away from you. Wait until she calms down to try to talk her into coming home.
Step 2
Apologize to your wife if you have done wrong. According to UT Counseling and Mental Health Center, apologizing when you hurt your wife's feelings or do something wrong shows your wife that you can, and will, take responsibility for your actions. In some cases, just saying you are sorry may not be sufficient. Be willing to offer solutions to how you can avoid making the same mistakes over again. Also, forgive anything she has done wrong to you--even if she doesn't apologize.
Step 3
Listen to your wife's concerns and feelings. Part of a healthy relationship is having open communication. If you sit quietly and listen actively to your wife, your wife will begin to realize that she can be honest and open with you. To actively listen, don't pay attention to anything but your wife and acknowledge what she says. You don't have to agree with what she says but you should still acknowledge that you hear what she is saying.
Step 4
Talk openly about the problems that caused your wife to leave. When you talk to your wife, do it nicely. Don't accuse her of anything and don't tell her how she feels, notes Kansas State University. Instead, focus on what you can do to make things right with your wife.
Step 5
Compromise with her about the issues at hand. Acknowledge the problems and offer solutions. Ask her what she thinks about your proposed solutions and work from there until you two can agree on a solution. She probably won't come back home if she thinks the situation in the house will be the same as before she left. Try to work with your wife to come up with solutions that will make you both happy.
Step 6
Remind her why the two of you got married. Ask her out on a date to a place that is special to both of you or give her a heartfelt present that reminds her of the time you were dating or when you were newlyweds.
Tips and Warnings
- If you and your wife can't come to a mutually acceptable agreement that results in her coming home, ask her if she would like to visit a marriage counselor. Sometimes, a person outside of the relationship can offer valuable guidance and suggestions to help you work through your problems.
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