Lies which obscure a child's misdemeanor and its repercussions can be problematic. However, parents should be careful not to overreact about lying, which offers an opportunity to discuss the distinctions between lying and being honest; the importance of honesty, both at home and in the community; and alternatives to lying, suggests the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry.
Find Examples
Use references to discuss the impact of lying, suggests the Parenthood website. Read stories; look at artwork; watch movies; or listen to music that offers examples of lying and the consequences, then discuss your own perspectives. Third-party sources are distant and safe territory to discuss, but they can nonetheless be instructive, the website notes.
Be Honest
Be a role model for telling the truth, including admitting that you have lied if confronted by a child, recommends Disney Family website. If you and your child have a good relationship, he will be able to forgive you, because your relationship is more important than a single event. Moreover, this experience of confrontation, admission and forgiveness can help children maintain their trust in you and prevent your own lying.
Convey Understanding
Try to understand your child's reason for lying, rather than focusing on the act of lying, suggests "The Today Show." Ask your child directly for her motivation: What did she think would happen if she told the truth? By discussing her concerns, as well as possible ramifications, you can help your child develop a sense of conscience.
