Flirting is a way of letting someone know that you are interested, and gauging that person's interest in you. Effective flirting requires the right moves and, above all, confidence. Cheesy pick-up lines and flashy jewelry might work on a select few in the dating pool, but sincerity and confidence are the best tools of a serious flirt. Flirting can be very flattering, and the right approach makes the person you are flirting with feel comfortable, interested and aroused at the same time.
Step 1
Capture her interest with eye contact. Locking eyes for several seconds, with a smile, sends a clear message that you are interested. If she returns the gaze and the smile, she probably is interested too.
Step 2
Walk over, and start a conversation. Don't be overtly sexual; cleverness is the new sexy. According to Cosmopolitan, you can "tell him you have a unique proposition: You'll buy him a drink in exchange for an entertaining conversation." A conversation starter like this exudes confidence, which is attractive to both sexes.
Step 3
Be interested in the conversation. Maintain eye contact, and ask questions. Don't just nod and utter the random "uh huh."
Step 4
Compliment her frequently. Complimenting her appearance lets her know you feel a physical attraction. Complimenting her demeanor or attitude lets her know that you like her and would like to proceed with the conversation and the relationship.
Step 5
Use the right body language. Position your body with your shoulders aligned toward the person. If you're a woman, a slight tilt to the neck suggests voluntary vulnerability. According to Belinda Luscombe in Time magazine, "Scientists call all these little acts 'contact-readiness' cues, because they indicate, nonverbally, that you're prepared for physical engagement."
Step 6
Make physical contact. If all goes well, start with some basic physical contact to take the flirting to the next level. Touch his arm or hands during casual conversation. If he accepts the contact, that's a strong sign that things are going well.
Tips and Warnings
- Remember to be authentic. People have instinctual gauges of human character and personality. Be yourself, and be confident that you are sexy enough to be attractive to this person.
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