Coping with the death of your spouse might be one of the most difficult challenges you face in your life. As you move through the grieving process, you might experience a wide range of overwhelming emotions such as anger, guilt and depression. The pain of your loss can leave you feeling isolated at a time when you most need emotional support. Joining a bereavement support group can help you receive the support you need to navigate your grief as well as the life changes you encounter as you heal from your spouse's death.
Step 1
Research bereavement support groups, and decide what type of group would be best for you. There are often many different types of bereavement support groups available, especially in a metropolitan area. Some groups offer support to anyone grieving the death of a loved one, while others offer support only to grieving spouses. Groups can also vary in how formal the meetings are, whether they have a spiritual element, and if they're led by a trained grief counselor. Finally, decide if you'd be more comfortable with a face-to-face group or a virtual group that meets via the Internet.
Step 2
Get recommendations for the type of bereavement support group you want to join. Most local hospice centers offer bereavement support and often can recommend local support groups. You also can check with most major hospitals or a local religious organization. If you're interested in an online support group, see Resources for referral organizations.
Step 3
Make a commitment to attend a meeting. It's normal to feel nervous and vulnerable when you think of reaching out for support. Remind yourself that these people share your experience and understand the emotions and difficulties you feel. It's also important to remember that this will be a safe and nonjudgmental place for you to receive the support you need while healing.
Step 4
Give yourself time to feel comfortable with the group. With a face-to-face group, in particular, it can take time for you to overcome your reservations and really share with the group. If you're a naturally reserved or private person, you might need to attend two or three meetings before you feel comfortable enough to open up. As with the grieving process in general, it's important to be patient and give yourself time.
