Talking to a woman can be a source of great anxiety. You might think, "Why would a woman want to talk to me? If she does talk to me, what am I ever going to say to her?" Take a deep breath and relax. A conversation with a woman need not be complicated. Put your anxieties aside, and use your confidence, sensitivity and sense of curiosity to get to know a woman better though a lighthearted conversation.
Step 1
Stand up straight and smile. Before even opening your mouth, you communicate a great deal to a woman with your body language. Express your confidence with your posture. Relax your shoulders back, lift your chest slightly, make eye contact, and smile.
Step 2
Dress neatly, and shower regularly. Like body language, your clothing and grooming communicate something about your personality to a woman before a conversation even begins. No matter what your style, women tend to be drawn to a man who looks--and smells--clean.
Step 3
Listen carefully to the woman during the conversation. As she speaks, you learn more about her. Reflect back to her information she shares with you by asking follow-up questions or by commenting on what she says. For example, if she mentions taking her dog to the park, ask her what kind of dog she has or what park she went to. This helps open up a larger conversation and communicates your sensitivity and your interest in getting to know her.
Step 4
Compliment the woman when appropriate, but keep these compliments relevant to the conversation. For example, if she's been talking about a big project she recently finished at work, tell her that you find her commitment and drive at her job impressive. By making your compliments part of the conversation, you can express your admiration and interest in her without being overbearing.
Step 5
Don't complain. When you talk about yourself, discuss positive aspects of your life. Focus on topics that highlight your interests, strengths and individuality. For example, talk about a great ski trip you recently took with your sister rather than the fact that your roommate never does the dishes. Keeping the conversation positive communicates the positive, strong aspects of your character.
