Some children are naturally stronger willed than others. According to Carl E. Pickhardt, PhD, all children experience moments of stubbornness, but strong-willed children do so more often than their peers. These kids may involve themselves in mischief more often than others and easily find trouble to the vexation of their caregivers. You may feel concern for your child's behavior and desire to effectively discipline them.
Step 1
Set clear and unchanging guidelines for your child to follow. For example, follow a directive from the parent the first time it is given. Keepkidshealthy.com strongly recommends consistency in your parenting.
Step 2
Enlighten your child as to what consequences will follow misbehavior. When you discipline her for a rule infraction, she should not be surprised. Always enforce set consequences so your parenting is consistent.
Step 3
Speak to your child clearly, calmly and on his level. Don't position yourself above him in an intimidating manner. Discuss behavior issues in a gentle but serious tone.
Step 4
Discuss good choices with your child. Explain that she often has to make a multitude of decisions and you expect her to think through them and pick the most appropriate one.
Step 5
Praise him when he exhibits good behavior. Your child needs to know how much you appreciate his following directions and staying out of trouble. Your attention prompts further good behavior in the future.
Step 6
Use teamwork for effective discipline. Make sure you are on the same page with teachers, grandparents and any other adults with whom your child interacts. The rules should be consistent for your child despite where she is and whose care she is under at the time.
Step 7
Communicate with your child daily about his actions and thoughts. Ask him to put into words what he feels. Self-reflection helps him understand his motivations and adjust his behavior accordingly.
Step 8
Speak to your child regarding how her behavior affects others. Remind her that every choice she makes influences those around her. Let her know you are hurt and disappointed when she willfully disobeys you.
Tips and Warnings
- Provider-Parent Partnerships says to model good actions to help manage your child's behavior. For instance, if you have a rule forbidding cursing, don't engage in vulgar talk yourself.
