As your children approach adolescence, one of the more frightening scenarios is that of them succumbing to drug and alcohol temptation. Most teenagers will, at some point, be exposed to alcohol, tobacco or illicit drugs at school or among friends. However, many parents tend to underestimate their ongoing influence on their adolescent children; according to Parents: The Anti-Drug, teens often secretly long for the guidance of a parent. By being attentive and open to your teens, you can help them get through these complex and confusing years.
Step 1
Maintain a connection with your teen. Many parents make the mistake of assuming teens want them to "back off." While it's true that teens might not welcome intrusiveness, this doesn't preclude showing genuine interest in your child. Parents: The Anti-Drug notes that by showing an interest in your child's activities, friends and goals, you can keep the line of communication open. Talk openly to your teen and let him know you're available to listen in a non-judgmental manner.
Step 2
Clarify your expectations. Although you might assume that your teen knows how you feel about alcohol, cigarettes and drugs, you can't be sure until you discuss it with your her. Although your adolescent may balk at any rules you might impose, she will also appreciate knowing what is expected of her. Having this conversation may also yield valuable information on how your teen perceives dangerous or self-destructive behaviors. Be sure to calmly correct any misconceptions your teen expresses.
Step 3
Share time enjoying leisure activities with your teen. By spending time doing things your teen enjoys, you strengthen the bond between with him, reports Parents: The Anti-Drug. Although it is not your sole duty to be your teen's "friend," fostering a feeling of ease and comfort will make him more likely to trust and confide in you in times of trouble.
Step 4
Emphasize the need for hobbies. According to Teen Help, kids who keep busy are less likely to fall prey to drugs and alcohol. Your teen might want to try an after-school sports or music program, or start a part-time job. Make sure you don't overwhelm your teen with too many activities, however, as this might add to her stress level and defeat its purpose.
Tips and Warnings
- Offer special privileges and praise when your teen overcomes temptation or peer pressure. According to Parents: The Anti-Drug, it's important to reinforce good behavior as well as correct errors.
- Avoid being too punitive and judgmental. According to Parents: The Anti-Drug, this is likely to erode your relationship with your teen and backfire. Your role should be about teaching and guidance, not retaliation.
