According to experts at Helpline.org, loved ones, partners and friends can be a primary source of support for individuals who have experienced the death of someone close to them. Depending on the circumstances, it many be difficult to know what to say or how to help, even if the bereaved person is your spouse. By learning more about self-care tools and grief support, you can be prepared to offer helpful assistance and feel more comfortable with the role you play in your spouse's the grief process.
Step 1
Learn about grief and the associated emotions. Experts at Helpguide.org note that grief can often make people uncomfortable because an individual's emotions can be so overwhelming. People can even feel unsure of what to do or say to support a grieving spouse. Experts at Mental Health America suggest that there is no correct way to help. By learning about grief, you can understand more about the emotions and thoughts your spouse may be experiencing, and you will feel more prepared to listen with empathy.
Step 2
Be prepared to listen patiently and with compassion. Helpguide.org suggests that you can support the bereavement process by simply allowing your spouse to process stories of the deceased, how he died, or the difficult feelings of anger and guilt that often accompany grief. It's often helpful to allow your spouse to lead the conversation and to avoid giving advice that is overly directive, such as what your spouse "should" do.
Step 3
Take action to offer practical help and support. Helpguide.org notes that you should offer to help with daily tasks such as cooking, pet care, childcare and housework. At the same time, it's also important to offer companionship, so accompanying your spouse to a support group meeting, taking a walk or going out for lunch are ways to support her socially during the bereavement process.
Step 4
Maintain long-term support. Experts at Mental Health American note that grief is a long process that often lasts well beyond the funeral. It's important that you offer extra support on special days such as anniversaries, birthdays and holidays. Taking part in rituals that offer positive opportunities to remember the deceased is also helpful.
