Humans seem to have a natural need for friendship, but making new friends can be challenging, especially if you're new to a city or naturally shy. According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, friends can help you through rough times such as illness, stress or depression. They do not have to be in your age group, although you might have more in common with others of your generation. Building your own strength as a person and being willing to give of yourself helps you know what to look for in others and create lasting friendships.
Step 1
Look in your local newspaper for free events that interest you, like a sporting event or an art gallery opening. Although it can seem intimidating to attend a social event on your own, chances are there will be others like you who share your interests and could end up being your friend.
Step 2
Sign up for a class that interests you. A class can provide lots of natural opportunity for conversations with people who are interested in what you are. And a classroom is a safe and comfortable environment in which to meet people.
Step 3
Invite people you know but don't hang out with to go for coffee or have lunch. Sometimes people you know superficially can have qualities that can make them your friends when you get to know them better. And try to accept invitations from people, even if you don't have a strong initial connection, because you can get to know them better and potentially meet other people through them.
Step 4
Exhibit the qualities you are looking for in a friendship to attract friends like you. Honesty and loyalty are two important qualities for building and maintaining a friendship.
Tips and Warnings
- Don't take it personally if someone you show interest in is indifferent or does not respond with the same enthusiasm. She could be at a different stage in her life where she needs time to herself, or she could have a full schedule. Her reaction might have nothing to do with how she feels about you.
- Avoid spending time with people who are a bad influence on your health and habits, according to The New York Times.
Things You'll Need
- Classes
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