Often, a living situation with an elderly relative involves some degree of caregiving. While this might be the best option for you and your elderly relative, it's also a daunting task that will require time and patience, reports Caring.com. If your elderly relative moves in with you due to health issues, he is likely to struggle with the loss of independence that comes with being cared for under your roof. By factoring in some of the emotional and logistical aspects of sharing a home with an elderly relative, you can make it a better experience for all involved.
Step 1
Remain considerate of the feelings of all family members. Caring.com emphasizes that having an elderly relative live with you will affect the entire family, so take steps to ensure that all household members feel that their needs are understood and respected. Make sure that all members of your family have sufficient privacy and a level of comfort in your home.
Step 2
Discuss the realities of your past and present relationship. According to AgingCare.com, it's not unusual for a historically troubled relationship with your elderly relative to remain troubled in the present. If you are struggling with an ongoing dysfunction with your relative in your new living situation, you may benefit from seeking therapy.
Step 3
Make provisions for bathing and intimate situations. According to Caring.com, depending on your relative's level of health and independence, you may have to bathe, dress or provide toilet hygiene for your family member. If you are uncomfortable with these realities, it may be wise to explore hiring a home care worker. You may also need to install showers and bathtubs that are adapted for your relative's poor balance, if that is an issue.
Step 4
Prepare for the future. AgingCare.com, advises readiness for a time in the future when you can no longer meet your elderly relative's health needs. Discuss a backup plan or future support options with her. This may be a difficult conversation, but it's best to have a plan of action in place ahead of time.
Step 5
Procure the necessary legal documents. Caring.com reports that although these documents may be perplexing or upsetting, they make life easier in times of crisis. Some of the important legal documents include advance directives, which allow your elderly relative to specify his medical care wishes for the future, a living will, which addresses end-of-life decisions, and durable power of attorney for health care, which entrusts a selected person with your loved one's health-care decisions, should he become unable to make these decisions himself.
Tips and Warnings
- Allow your elderly relative to be as independent as is reasonably possible. According to Caring.com, the transition to living in your home will likely be difficult for your relative, especially if she was used to living on her own. Consult your relative's doctor for any special considerations or instructions you need to know.
