It's common to have a roommate during your time at college, especially if you live in a dorm. Upon entering a living situation with a roommate, expect that the two of you will not agree on everything. When conflict arises, remain calm and have face-to-face discussions. Exchange phone numbers to maintain a flow of communication, and divide cleaning and other chores equally.
Lifestyle
Two adults living in the same room with different schedules should be considerate of each other's schedule. Post your schedules, so it will be easier to remember when one of you needs quiet. Ask your roommate if she can sleep with music playing or the television on. If you have control of the thermostat from your room, you should discuss sleeping temperature preferences, according to the Office of Residence Life at the University of Evansville.
Your Stuff
Stereos, computers, printers, refrigerators and microwaves are all things that one roommate might have and the other might not. Establish boundaries and rules for the use of your things, especially when you are not around. Be clear. For example, if you allow your roommate to use your printer but you want him to supply his own paper, make that clear. If you're a vegetarian and you don't want him to heat meat in your microwave. let him know that clearly.
Communication
The vast majority of roommate conflicts are the result of poor communication about the conflicts and how to resolve them, according to Pacific University Oregon. If you are upset about something but don't talk to your roommate about it, the situation is more likely to escalate. When conflict arises, use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. For example, "I had a hard time sleeping while you were watching that movie last night." Seek resolutions that accommodate both parties. For example, you might be able to sleep if your roommate watches a movie wearing headphones.
Visitors
Having friends over is part of a normal social life. If you and your roommate have a separate room for socializing, the subject of visitors becomes more flexible. However, when the bedroom and the socializing area are the same room, roommates must clearly communicate the boundaries of their comfort zones, especially when it comes to the subject of romantic guests, late night guests and intoxicated guests.
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