Sperm donation and artificial insemination has made pregnancy possible for women with infertility, single moms and lesbian couples. Most sperm bank facilities require donors to sign away any parental rights so the woman who obtains the donor sperm doesn't have to worry that her donor will attempt to take her baby. The process works in reverse, as well: the woman who receives the sperm agrees not to expect any parental benefits from the father. Some sperm donors will agree to one contact from the child after its eighteenth birthday for the purposes of obtaining family or medical history, according to the American Pregnancy Association.
Step 1
Contact the sperm bank from which you obtained the sperm. Ask them to review the donor and recipient contracts to see if contact is legally prohibited.
Step 2
Explain why you're interested in contacting your donor. If your child developed a rare medical condition, or if you need specific medical or family history information from your donor, the agency may be able to contact the donor on your behalf to obtain the needed information without arranging direct contact.
Step 3
Ask the agency for your donor's contact information if your request meets all the contact stipulations set forth in your initial agreement. If your child is over 18, if your donor agreed to be contacted or if your situation meets the criteria for breaching the no contact rule as specifically stated in your agreement, the sperm bank will provide the contact information as required.
Step 4
Arrange a meeting in a safe, neutral place. Some sperm donation centers allow you to use their facilities for the one-time meeting. Explain that the donor contract stipulated that he is bound to one meeting, and explain the purpose for your request.
Step 5
Re-draw your donor contract, or have a lawyer draw up a new contract, if you and your donor mutually agree to continued contact. Make it clear in your contract the exact role you agree the donor will play in your and your child's life.
