Self-esteem is a collection of emotions and feelings a child has of herself. It affects a child daily, having an impact on her behavior, thoughts and motivation. Learning self-esteem begins as early as infancy when a baby figures out how to sit up after several attempts. Unfortunately, some negative experiences and perceptions can damage a child's developing self-esteem. As a result, a child can turn fearful, pessimistic and negative. Luckily, there are a variety of ways to help increase your child's low self-esteem.
Step 1
Speak cautiously to children. The KidsHealth website explains that your child is very aware of your words. Be truthful but sensitive. For example, instead of saying, "Work harder and you'll make the football team next time," say, "I'm proud of you for how hard you tried."
Step 2
Tell your child what she should do instead of what she should not do. For instance, the National Network for Child Care suggests saying, "Draw on the paper," instead of "Don't draw on the walls."
Step 3
Improve your own self-esteem. Children learn by example, so don't be hard on yourself or pessimistic.
Step 4
Separate any bad behavior from how you see your child. Do not call your child bad, instead say, "I don't like when you throw your food, but I still love you." Make sure your child knows you will always believe in him.
Step 5
Surprise your child with spontaneous praise and affection. KidsHealth suggests slipping a note into her book bag that says how much you love her or simply offering an honest compliment.
Tips and Warnings
- The KidsHealth website recommends making the home a safe and caring environment. Children who are abused or exposed to frequent parental arguments can experience low self-esteem. Rather enrolling your child in competitive sports, get her involved in activities that boost her self-esteem, such as mentoring programs. Having her teach or be a role model for a younger child can help boost self-esteem for all involved.
- The National Network for Child Care warns that certain actions can hurt your child and lower his self-esteem. Refrain from yelling or criticizing your child, especially in the presence of others. Do not call your child hurtful names such as stupid, idiot, lazy, dumb or a failure. Never neglect or expect too much from children.
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