Whether you are lonely, have moved to a new place, or are looking to spice up your social life, you can explore several ways to meet new people to whom you can talk. Meeting new people can seem intimidating and awkward, particularly if you are shy. However, if you adopt a friendly and upbeat attitude, and know where to look, you will be pleasantly surprised at how many new people you can meet and talk to.
Step 1
Smile and pleasantly greet all people you come across in your daily life. It is easy to exchange a smile and a hello to the person next to you in the grocery line. Consistently breaking the ice with a smile can build your confidence, and reduce any anxiety or fear of rejection that you experience when you meet new people. "Psychology Today" writer Karen Karbo cites smiling and engaging people in conversation as positive behaviors to make new friends.
Step 2
Attend a class or interest group to meet new people you can talk to. This allows you to pursue something you enjoy, while having the opportunity to meet like-minded people with similar interests. Discussing ideas from class, or asking for help, are good ways to start conversation with new people. "Psychology Today's" Karbo explains that "friends are often those who we cross paths with regularly. Our friends tend to be coworkers, classmates and people we run into at the gym."
Step 3
Venture outside in your spare time, and go to places where other people will be there with whom you can talk. Whether you attend a sporting event or take your pet to the local dog park, you should put yourself in an environment where you can meet new people. The Better Health Channel says you should never turn down party invitations or an opportunity to meet new people.
Step 4
Volunteer your time to a charitable cause or youth group. University of Chicago psychology professor John Cacioppo explains that "charitable activities enable us to put ourselves in the social picture without fear of rejection." Taking an assistant coach position on a youth soccer team, for example, allows you to gain social confidence from leading a group, while opening you up to a new network of potential new friends.
Step 5
Appreciate your new friends when you begin to spend time with them. The Better Health Channel website explains that a friendship requires time and nurture. Ask questions and make an effort to get to know your potential new friend. Take time to listen to the person's answers, and show interest. Honestly tell people about yourself when they ask.
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