Depression is a mental illness that affects millions of people each year. Common symptoms include fatigue, irritability, sadness, loss of appetite, tearfulness and sleep disruption. If you have a friend who suffers from depression and you want to help, you might not know how to begin. The first thing you can do is to educate yourself about the illness. Read information about depression from the National Institute of Mental Health (see resources). If she's not already in treatment, it's important to encourage her to get help, as depression doesn't go away on it's own.
Step 1
Listen to your friend with a nonjudgmental attitude. When he expresses pessimistic thoughts or uses self-critical statements, remember that it is the illness talking. Don't try to argue with him or correct his point of view. According to the University of Maryland Medical Center, the feelings of sadness and anger significantly interfere with your friend's life, causing him see the world through a depressed and distorted lens.
Step 2
Offer supportive comments and gentle encouragement. Don't say something like "Just get over it." Your friend isn't choosing to feel this way. Instead, you might want to express your concern and empathy.
Tell her how much she means to you. You might try saying something such as "You're so important to me. I can see how difficult this is for you and I'm sorry you feel so sad. A lot of people feel better when they get treatment. Maybe we should talk about getting you some professional help."
Step 3
Tell him you are willing to make phone calls to find a doctor who can help. Let him know that you can come with him to the appointment if you are able to do so. According to Help Guide, having assistance with making phone calls can be an enormous help to someone who's already burdened by depressive symptoms.
Step 4
Help your friend make a list of all of her symptoms and complaints. Bring this list to the appointment. Being clear and specific will enable the doctor to make a better diagnosis.
Step 5
Maintain your boundaries. You may find that you become frustrated or irritated when your friend declines your invitations to get together or ignores your advice. Remember that the depression is out of his control. Try to stay calm and empathic. If he rejects your offers to help, accept this for today and try again at another time.
