Clinical depression is an illness that can affect anybody at any time. No matter how good a person's life may seem, he may be fighting the inner demon of depression. If your spouse or partner is depressed, you probably share his sadness to some extent. You may no longer be able to do the things you used to do together because he no longer has the energy. Although every individual is responsible for treating his own mental issues, you can help the one you love.
Step 1
Educate yourself about the symptoms and causes of clinical depression. It is important to understand that your partner can't help the way she feels, that it isn't her fault. Read books and websites about depression, or watch videos. Learn about the latest treatments. By educating yourself, you can give yourself hope.
Step 2
Talk to your partner and make sure he knows he has your unconditional support, as long as he is willing to help himself. Let him know you're always there to listen and that you would love to go for a walk or a drive with him when he feels like leaving the house.
Step 3
Consult a psychiatrist, psychologist or clergy member and ask about counseling services. Contact your health insurance provider to find out about your mental health care benefits. If you present clear options to your depressed partner, you are giving her a gift she may not have the strength to give herself. Tell her you're willing to go to couples therapy with her if she feels it would help.
Step 4
Encourage your partner to participate in activities he used to enjoy. When a person is in the throes of depression, his inclination may be to stay in bed with the curtains closed and avoid the outside world. Gently insist that your partner get up and get moving, even if it's just to take a hot bath or walk around the yard. Remind him of good times you had together doing things he used to enjoy.
Step 5
Involve friends and family. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of, and you shouldn't have to shoulder the burden of a depressed partner alone. Remember that taking care of yourself is vitally important if you are to be of help to anyone else, and don't be afraid to ask a friend or relative to stay with your partner while you take a break.
Step 6
Have a plan of action in case your partner becomes suicidal. Contact psychiatric emergency rooms in your area and decide which hospital you will take her to if necessary.
Things You'll Need
- Books about depression
