Taking care of an elderly parent can be financially and emotionally difficult. While you feel the need to return the love and care they gave to you as a child, it can sometimes be better for all parties if your elderly parent moves to senior housing. According to Penn State University, the financial and emotional support of older adults who are opposed to moving to an institutional care setting is a growing social problem in the United States. You must show understanding and compassion when trying to convince an elderly parent to move away from her home environment.
Step 1
Consult a professional to assess the condition of your elderly parent. The New York Times says that as of 2009, an in-person, one- or two-hour consultation with a geriatric care manager can cost between $100 and $200, and a professional will advise you on the best way forward. You also can consult a doctor for advice on the living situation of your elderly parent.
Step 2
Set in place a plan for your parent to move into senior housing. You must fully commit to the decision if you are to successfully convince your elderly parent to move. As the Aging Care website explains, the safety of your elderly parent should be the main factor in the decision. Do not wait for a nasty fall or serious injury to make the decision.
Step 3
Talk to your elderly parent and let him know you feel it is in his best interest to move into senior housing. Emphasize that his safety and well-being is your primary concern. On the Caring Transitions website, Kathy Carrier says it is vital to show empathy for your elderly parent, as a move can be an emotionally difficult time. Moving into senior housing can heighten emotions. Show understanding for the feeling of your elderly parent while making your point.
Step 4
Research all senior housing institutions thoroughly. Find references from families who have used or are currently using the location. Visit in person each senior housing location, take your elderly parent with you and allow her to meet the staff. The Aging Care website says that a relationship with the staff is a crucial aspect of making your elderly parent feel comfortable when she moves into senior housing.
Step 5
Create excitement that demonstrates to your elderly parent the benefits of moving into senior housing. Asking staff to give your parent a small task such as gardening can make the move seem worthwhile. Activities such as singing class or social clubs in a senior housing institution also can show your elderly parent the benefits of moving into senior housing.
References
- Aging Care: "How Can I Get My Elderly Parents to Consent to Move to Assisted Living"; Jacqueline Marcell
- New York Times: "When Elderly Care Problems Escalate, You Can Hire an Expert"
- U.S. News Health: "Step 1 Decide if a Nursing Home is Necessary"; Sarah Baldauf; March 11, 2009
- Grand Rapids Press: "Moving Older Parents to Smaller Places is an Emotional, Important Task"; Kathy Carrier; Feb. 14, 2010
- Penn State University: "Increasing the Opportunites for Aging in Place"
