If you have a friend who's depressed, you're probably concerned and want to do something to help. If you're not sure what to do, it helps to first have an understanding of what depression is. Depression is a serious illness that affects the way people feel both mentally and physically. Your friend might feel tired, sad, hopeless or irritable, get sick frequently or miss a lot of school. Other common symptoms include feeling anxious, complaining of aches and pains or changes in sleep and appetite.
Step 1
Talk to your friend about your concerns. Tell her that you're worried about her because she seems so sad and down. Ask her if there's anything you can do to help. Encourage her to talk to a trusted adult or school counselor about her problems and feelings. Let her know that the only way for her to feel better is to get help.
Step 2
Offer to start an exercise routine together. Exercise is a way for depressed people to feel better, because it helps produce endorphins, the body's "feel-good" chemicals. Your friend might not feel like doing anything strenuous, but you could start by inviting her to go for a walk or a bike ride.
Step 3
Spend time with your friend just being together. According to Help Guide, many depressed people feel like isolating themselves or not doing anything, but this can make their depression worse. Sometimes just being with someone can be a huge comfort. Offer to do something fun together, such as going out to a movie or getting something to eat.
Step 4
Encourage your friend to avoid alcohol and drugs. Sometimes, people who are depressed turn to alcohol and drugs to make themselves feel better. According to Help Guide, it may be tempting for your friend to drown his sorrows in negative behaviors, but in the end, it will only make him feel worse and could make him feel suicidal.
Step 5
Let an adult know if your friend engages in any self-mutilating behavior or talks about suicide. Depressed teens frequently self-mutilate by cutting themselves, according to Teens Health. If you've noticed unusual scars or marks on your friend's body, let a trusted adult know, such as a family member, teacher or counselor. It's also important to let someone know if your friend talks about hurting herself or wanting to kill herself. Even if she's made you promise not to tell, it's important to let someone know before she does something serious.
