Drug experimentation and regular use are common in teenagers. The 2005 National Survey on Drug Use and Health found that half of all teens will have tried illegal drugs by the time of high school graduation. Teens also report that drugs are easily accessible.
Although some kids will try drugs and not become addicted, some do experience serious problems that affect not only themselves, but also their entire families. Even if you cannot help your child get over addiction right away, your support can aid in the recovery process.
Step 1
Talk to your spouse or partner as soon as you suspect your child may be using drugs. Gather evidence and plan the discussion before confronting your child with your findings. It is important to avoid accusations and to truly listen to what your child tells you. The Partnership for a Drug-Free America says that many teens will deny using drugs and become angry or defensive in response to the topic. Drug addiction progresses in stages, and it is important to address it early instead of hoping the problem will go away.
Step 2
Set house rules and personal boundaries. You have a right to stand up to your child in regards to how you want to be treated and what kind of behavior you will not allow in your home. The Partnership for a Drug-Free America suggests sitting down with your child and explaining the behavior you expect from them and the consequences that will result if your expectations are not met. Let your teen have a role in discussing goals and consequences.
Step 3
Find treatment facilities for your child, whether on an in-patient or out-patient basis. It is important for your child to know that you support him, even if you do not approve of his drug use. Although addiction treatment can be expensive, insurance may cover the cost. If insurance does not cover the cost, some facilities have sliding-scale reduced rates or scholarships to assist with funding.
Step 4
Be gentle with yourself. Although your child's addiction can take over your entire life, it is important to continue to go on with your life while also dealing with the addiction. Deepak Chopra says that many parents of addicts focus so much mental attention on their addicted child that they cease to make time for their partner and create a positive vision for the future. Find a support group for yourself as well as for your child; you need a strong network.
Step 5
Know that you cannot heal your child alone and that you did not cause their addiction. According to the website Sober Coaching Your Teen, it is common for parents to blame themselves for having an addicted child. A child's drug use progresses in several stages, according to the site, as do the parents' responses. Acknowledging that the child needs help is usually a very late stage in the process and comes after addiction is firmly established.
