In life, tragedy can strike at any given time. For children, it may be difficult to help them comprehend the new reality that exists after a loss. There are steps parents can take, however, to help facilitate the grieving process. For instance, according to the Children's Grief Education Association, it's important to keep daily routines going and make sure children feel safe and secure. Please note there are also numerous professionals such as licensed therapists or social workers that specialize in children and grief and can provide support to everyone in the family.
Step 1
Communicate to your child what happened in a clear and simple manner. Phrase your wording according to your child's mental and emotional age.
Step 2
Use words such as "death" or "died." Do not use other terms that are not true.
Step 3
Answer your child's questions in a simple and calm manner. Give your child choices for how they want to proceed with the tragic circumstance. For example, ask your child if she would like to attend the funeral.
Step 4
Assure your child and put a rest to any fears that come up. For instance, explain what arrangements are in place if something were to happen to you.
Step 5
Show your grief in front of your child if natural. Do not hide it or be afraid to show emotion. If you are stricken with grief, have someone else take care of your child for the time being.
Step 6
Keep routines going that will comfort your child. If your child is having problems falling asleep, give a cup of warm milk. The "New York Times" reports that a warm glass of milk may be comforting as a sleep aid, as many surveys have shown.
Tips and Warnings
- The Child Grief Association states that children may regress to earlier emotional and mental states when experiencing grief. Children may go through many emotions, such as anger, fear, insecurity, sadness and irritability. Your child may have mood swings for no reason during this time. Children may also experience feelings of guilt, as if they caused the tragedy. Please assure your child that is not true, and provide comfort. Adverse physical sensations may also occur within your child, such as fatigue and stomach pains.
- If you feel overwhelmed or are concerned for your child, it may be wise to seek professional help. Remember to take care of yourself as well during the grieving process. The whole family may need to have professional support after a tragic event.
Things You'll Need
- Milk
- Pot
- Glass
