When planning your wedding, a maid of honor can help you take care of details, make decisions and plan events for you. A maid of honor is typically a best friend or close family member, however, if you have two best friends, it can be difficult to choose one maid of honor without hurting the other friend's feelings. Clearly explain the responsibilities of a maid of honor and take both friends' personalities into consideration when structuring your wedding party.
Step 1
Explain the responsibilities of a maid of honor to your two best friends. Decide what type of bride you are, suggests the Westchester County and Hudson Valley Wedding Guide. Some brides like taking care of the details themselves, while others prefer a maid of honor who inserts herself in the planning and takes care of some of the smaller decisions. Choose a maid of honor based on what you want and your best friends' personality types. One may be a better fit for maid of honor duties.
Step 2
Ask your friends point-blank who would rather be the maid of honor. You may find that one friend is happy to defer to the other and take the title of bridesmaid only. This relieves some of the pressure of choosing a maid of honor and allows your friends to choose between themselves.
Step 3
Give your two best friends the title of bridesmaids and then choose a close family member to be your maid of honor. Two best friends can't complain if your maid of honor is your sister. It shows a close family bond and removes the problem of choosing a maid of honor from out of your two best friends. They will have the same title and rank in the wedding party. Choosing a family member to be your maid of honor is a traditional move, notes the Wedding Channel.
Step 4
Ask both of your best friends to be maids of honor. While having one maid of honor is traditional, you can create your own titles and wedding party, says The Knot. Have two maids of honor or refer to them as honor attendants. This is especially helpful if you can't choose or you think both of your best friends have talents and abilities that will serve you well throughout the planning process.
Step 5
Arrange your wedding party so you and your fiance both only have two attendants, so there aren't any titles to be argued over. When you have a smaller wedding party, you have no need of naming each attendant and their responsibilities. It can make wedding planning easier as well.
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