Depression is a common but serious condition. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, major depressive disorder is the leading cause of disability in the United States for people ages 15 to 44. However, depression is also very treatable; the majority of people--even if severely depressed--can recover. There are many things you can do to help and support a spouse suffering from depression.
Step 1
Assist your spouse in getting the correct diagnosis and treatment, even if it means making the appointments yourself and arranging transportation for him. According to Psych Central, this may be one of the most important things you can do to help your spouse. The earlier the treatment begins, the more effective it is. Certain medications--as well as viruses and thyroid disorders--can cause symptoms that mimic those of depression; it is important that your doctor rule these out before arriving at a diagnosis. Encourage your spouse to write up a list of symptoms and ailments to discuss with the doctor.
Step 2
Help your spouse remember to take her medication. Buy a daily pill caddy in which to set out the day's medications; if your spouse is reluctant or seems unmotivated to do this, it is OK to take matters into your own hands and do it yourself. Remind your spouse that it may take several weeks for the pills to begin working. You should also become familiar with any contraindications, side effects or allergic reactions that could occur. Considering writing down dosages and other medication facts in a notebook in case pharmaceutical handouts are misplaced.
Step 3
Remind your spouse verbally that you love him and that things will get better. Avoid patronizing statements such as "Snap out of it" or "Try to pull yourself together." Even if well-intentioned, these remarks can be hurtful and ineffective. Help Guide notes that saying "I love you and am here to support you" or "We will get through this together" are much better choices.
Step 4
Invite your spouse to join you in pleasurable, mood-lightening activities or mild exercise. Even if she is resistant at first, she may eventually agree to your gentle persuasion, and benefit from the activity.
Step 5
Be vigilant for suicidal thoughts and behaviors. Red flags indicating a possible suicide attempt could include your spouse expressing wishes or fantasies of killing or hurting himself, becoming unusually physically reckless, or calling or visiting people to "say goodbye." The situation is particularly serious if lethal objects--such as guns, knives and drugs--appear in the home, or if your spouse displays sudden, calm resignation after being depressed. Call a crisis line, or take your spouse to a treatment facility.
Step 6
Take care of yourself by eating properly, getting enough sleep, and taking time out for enjoyable activities. Speak with a trusted friend, supportive family member, pastor or therapist to avoid become overwhelmed. Don't hesitate to seek counseling for yourself if you feel you are becoming stressed or depressed by your spouse's condition.
