According to the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, even well-behaved children can be defiant or uncooperative at times. Children who have a serious and pervasive pattern of hostility, defiance, and physical or verbal aggression might be struggling with mental health issues such as depression or oppositional defiant disorder. These behaviors can cause marked disruptions in the home and school, so it is important for parents and teachers to be aware of the signs, symptoms, and indications for behavior management.
Step 1
Intervene early and seek extra support for the child. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatrists suggests that ongoing issues of defiant or oppositional behaviors can be a sign of a variety of underlying issues. Teachers and parents who observe a pattern of such behavior should consult a school psychologist, doctor or mental health professional who can provide additional information and support regarding these behaviors.
Step 2
Create a clear behavioral management system with rewards and consequences. Experts at the Mayo Clinic note that children with defiant behaviors typically respond best to clear, consistent rules that provide positive reinforcement. Some behavior management strategies include daily point systems in which the child can earn points for positive behavior. It's critical to reward positive behaviors instead of frequently correcting negative behaviors.
Step 3
Offer the child options if he grows defiant or uncooperative. Experts at the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatrists note that defiant children tend to respond best to options rather than a single directive. Teachers and adults should give the child at least two options when asking him to comply. For example, if a child is acting out, he can either remove himself to the back of the room for several minutes of quiet time or he can sit toward the front next to the teacher.
Step 4
Have frequent contact with parents, teachers and support providers who work with the child. A child who struggles with oppositional and defiant behaviors might require extra communication between home and school settings. Adults can encourage improved behavior by using consistent systems to respond to behavioral issues. Frequent communication also allows everyone to be aware of any improvements or changes in the child's behavior or progress.
