You've noticed some changes in your spouse lately and you're concerned that she may be depressed. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, some of the symptoms your spouse may display include fatigue, irritability, tearfulness or sadness, increased or decreased need for sleep or changes in appetite. It's never easy to cope when someone you love is suffering from depression, but there are some steps you can take to make this ordeal a little easier.
Step 1
Inform yourself about depression. It's important to include your spouse in this process, so that he is also informed about the signs and symptoms of depression. You might encourage him to make a list of his symptoms, as this will be handy to have when he talks to his doctor. You can obtain information about depression and depressive symptoms from the National Institute of Mental Health.
Step 2
Set up an appointment for you and your spouse to talk to your family doctor. It's important that she gets a proper diagnosis in order to start the appropriate treatment. You also want to rule out any other possible causes of her feelings, such as another mental disorder or physical illness. Go with your spouse to the appointment to provide support and so that you are also informed about treatment options.
Step 3
Encourage him during the treatment process. His doctor may prescribe anti-depressants or suggest that he begin counseling. Sometimes, depressed people do not have the motivation to follow through with therapy appointments and they may even forget to take their medication. Help him to stay on track by offering to drive him to appointments. Gently remind him to take his medication if you think he's forgotten to do so.
Step 4
Suggest joining a support group. Depressed people often isolate themselves socially, which can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and isolation. Support groups offer a safe place to get advice and connect with others who are also struggling with depression. According to Help Guide, you might also think about joining a support group for friends and family members of people with depression. It's important that you have your own support system during this trying time. You can find a support group by asking your doctor or at a local community mental health agency. The Depression and Bipolar Alliance also offers online support groups if you'd rather not participate in person.
Step 5
Get her out of the house every day, even if it's just for a few minutes. Your spouse may just feel like staying in bed all day, but that could just make her feel worse. Getting fresh air and a bit of exercise may help to boost her mood. Go for a drive or a walk together after dinner, or visit some friends you haven't seen in a while. If she doesn't want to, accept this and ask again in a few days.
