In the United States, suicide is the 11th leading cause of death. It may seem like just a statistic until a friend tells you they're thinking of it. The University of Texas' student counseling center reports that 75 percent of all people who commit suicide often hint or warn their family or friends. Thus, if your friend talks to you about suicide, take it very seriously.
Step 1
Ask your friend directly if he or she is thinking of suicide, recommends the U.S. Department of Homeland Security. The department says this can help you quickly determine if your friend is in immediate danger. Potential questions include, "Do you have a plan to take your life?" and "Do you plan to take your life?" If your friend affirms that he or she plans to commit suicide, don't wait and call 9-1-1. If he or she is simply thinking about it, continue to Step 2.
Step 2
Listen to your friend's concerns and verbalize that you are there to listen and not judge them, advises the University of Texas' counseling center. The center says simply listening to their problems, concerns or fears is one of the most important things you can do for someone in crisis.
Step 3
Stay with your friend, or arrange to have other friends or family members always present. The U.S. Office of Women's Health says suicidal friends should never be left alone.
Step 4
Get your friend to seek professional help. People with suicidal thoughts need immediate professional counseling to help them work through their problems, according to the Florida Institute of technology's counseling and psychological services. Tell your friend that getting counseling is not a sign of weakness, nor will it affect how you perceive them. For referrals to a local counselor, call the National Hopeline Network at 800-784-2433 or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-8255.
References
- National Institutes of Health's MedlinePlus: Suicide
- U.S. Department of Homeland Security: How to Help a Suicidal Person
- University of Texas: Helping a Suicidal Friend
- Florida Institute of Technology Counseling and Psychological Services: My Friend is Talking About Suicide
- U.S. Office on Women's Health: Help a Friend
