A common issue associated with child custody cases is assisting the child in transitioning to the new custodial arrangement, according to "Child Custody A to Z" by Guy J. White. An objective is to ensure that the transition is as smooth and as minimally upsetting for the child as possible. Although each transition has unique requirements, there are some common considerations in all child custody cases, according to the American Bar Association Section of Family Law.
Step 1
Discuss the new custodial arrangement with the child. Ideally, both parents should participate together in the conversation with the child.
Step 2
Explain that the new child custody arrangement is not the result of anything the child did or did not do.
Step 3
Ask the child to share her feelings, concerns and fears about the new custody arrangement.
Step 4
Initiate a course of transition that does not rush the child into the new custodial arrangement. For example, if custody is shifting from one parent to another, approach the change gradually.
Step 5
Have your child spend an increasing amount of time at the home of the parent assuming primary custody.
Step 6
Schedule as much visitation time with the noncustodial parent during the transitional period as possible to ensure that the child understands both parents will continue to be involved in his life.
Step 7
Discuss with the child her feelings frequently as the transition process continues.
Tips and Warnings
- If your child does not seem to be adjusting well to a custody transition or custody-related issues, seriously consider seeking professional counseling or therapy for the child or for the family as a whole. Professional intervention early on in the process can help prevent more significant problems in the future.
References
- "Child Custody A to Z"; Guy J. White; 2005
- American Bar Association: Section of Family Law
- Nolo: Child Custody FAQ
