Shyness is a personality trait with biological and social causes that makes social interaction painful at times, according to the American Psychological Association. If you're shy, it probably takes you awhile to to warm up to new people, but this doesn't mean you can't make new friends. In fact, according to the Teens Health website, shy people often have qualities that make them likely to be a good friend, such as listening more instead of talking and being sensitive to other people's emotions.
Step 1
Sign up for a class. Learn a new skill or hobby, or explore a subject that interests you. Taking a class puts you directly in a social setting, so you won't easily be able to avoid contact with others. Being interested in the subject matter can help you to relax and takes the focus off of social pressure.
Step 2
Participate in a shyness support group. Support groups let you connect with others who have similar issues and experiences. You can share your experience and get advice and support from others at the same time. You can find a shyness support group in your area through local mental health and community agencies or online.
Step 3
Join a sports team or an exercise class. Being physically active and fit can boost your self-esteem and help you to feel more confident, according to the Mayo Clinic website. Joining a sports team or taking an exercise class that appeals to you gives you the opportunity to interact with others in a fun and relaxed setting.
Step 4
Volunteer in an organization that has meaning to you. According to the National Mental Health Information Center, volunteering puts you in the middle of a group of people who have a common interest. Putting the focus on helping others takes the focus and pressure off you, so you can interact with others in a more relaxed manner.
Step 5
Ask questions during a conversation. If you're stumped and overcome by your shyness, ask the other person questions to take the focus off yourself. You also learn about others and engage them through asking questions. If you're not sure what to say, asking about work or opinions on entertainment issues are generally good ice-breakers.
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