It can be challenging to figure out the best way to support and provide helpful assistance to a friend who is the victim of domestic violence. At the outset, you must keep in mind that every situation of domestic violence is unique. There is no "standard course" to take to aid a friend facing this type of abuse, according to "Finding Your Way Through Domestic Abuse" by Constance Fourre. Nonetheless, there are some useful tactics that routinely prove at least somewhat helpful in assisting a friend deal with and break away from a violent domestic situation.
Step 1
Talk to your friend. Do not sit quietly by, if you believe that your friend is victimized by a spouse or other domestic partner. Although your friend may choose not to talk to you about her situation, you can at least convey to your friend that you are concerned and there for her.
Step 2
Offer your friend help. Even if your friend is not inclined to speak in detail with you, make the point clearly that you stand ready and willing to lend your support and assistance.
Step 3
Support your friend, no matter whether she agrees to take action with regard to this situation.
Step 4
Contact a professional, an expert trained in dealing with victims of domestic violence. Not only can such a professional stand ready to assist your friend, she can help you in being a productively supportive friend for your abused friend.
Step 5
Spend time and schedule activities with your friend. Ensuring that she maintains a connection to people beyond her abuser provides her a lifeline. When she decides to move away from her relationship, that lifeline with you will prove crucial.
Tips and Warnings
- A number of organization exist to assist people get out of an abusive relationship. These groups can provide resources for you as you attempt to help a friend caught in such a situation. Contact the National Domestic Violence at 800-799-7233 Hotline to find out what resources exist in or near your community.
References
- HelpGuide.org: Domestic Violence and Abuse
- "Finding Your Way Through Domestic Abuse"; Constance Fourre; 2006
- "Representing Victims of Sexual and Spousal Abuse"; Nathalie Des Rosiers & Louise Langevin; 2002
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