Most parents seem to dread the inevitable discussion you must have with your children about sex. You know they are curious, and you know you want them to learn from you rather than the amount of misinformation available on the playground and other places. Talking openly with your kids about sex may make them less likely to engage is risky behavior as teens, says the Children Now website. Following a few guidelines will help you get your message across and help you feel a little less discomfort about the subject.
Step 1
Start the communication early. When you are teaching him where his nose and ears are, include his penis in the list.
Step 2
Explain elements of sexuality to her when you have opportunities, even if she doesn't ask. An example would be a brief explanation of how a family friend or relative became pregnant. Refrain from going into detail about intercourse until she is able to understand the concept, recommends the KidsHealth website.
Step 3
Add the mental and emotional elements of sexuality in your conversations as the kids get to the preteen years, rather than simply the biological aspect. Describe real life responsibilities and consequences of both a boy's and a girl's actions, in regard to sex.
Step 4
Plan ahead and let him know what is going to happen to his body, before it happens. Explain feelings he will have, as well as biological changes that will occur as he enters the next stage. This will make his thoughts and feelings easier to navigate when the time comes.
Step 5
Create an environment of open communication about sex by being matter-of-fact in your discussions and advice, says KidsHealth. Unnecessarily giving your kids a complex about nudity, development, feelings, or any aspect of sexuality could affect sexual relationships in the future.
Step 6
Maintain an open communication about sex with your children of the opposite sex, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Seek out answers together in books, or at your doctor's office, to keep the lines of communication open.
