Some children require more attention than others. Certain children may seem prone to frequent bouts of tantrums, fights with siblings and defiance against rules. Although you may feel angry when dealing with a difficult child, you must not give into that emotion. Stay calm and plan ahead on how to handle incidences of misbehavior from your child.
Significance
Building a good relationship with your child should be your first step in stopping bad behavior. Spend plenty of time with your child and encourage open communication between the two of you. Connected children and parents have a tendency to get angry at one another less, according to the Ask Dr. Sears website.
Prevention/Solution
You should not give a difficult child more attention when he is misbehaving, states Dr. Karin Suesser author of "Are You Yelling at Your Child Too Much?" The child may figure that any type of attention is better than no attention at all. Avoid yelling or lecturing the child. Put the child in a timeout spot or take away a privilege as a form of punishment. Instead, pay extra attention and give praise when the child is exhibiting good behavior.
Considerations
Difficult children may have less flexibility than easy-going children. Making specific household rules and chores and setting up a day to day schedule is likely to ward off potential meltdowns. Work out the schedule and rules together so that the child feels part of the process and is clear on your expectations.
Effects
Model how to handle anger in an appropriate way. If your child witnesses you yelling or slamming something down, the child is more likely to handle anger in a similar way. If you feel yourself becoming angry, leave the situation and take a few deep calming breaths.
Warning
Although you may feel as if you have a difficult child, you should never label her that while she is present. This may cause self-esteem issues and the child may act out. You need to approach parenting her in a positive manner to encourage her to stop bad behaviors.
