Feeling good sounds like a simple goal to accomplish. But we often fall prey to the stress and obstacles of everyday life that can become mountainous in our minds. The way we feel has physical, mental and emotional factors. Each one of these aspects can affect the other in negative and positive ways. The key to feeling happier and more complete is to change your attitude about yourself and your surroundings every day. It's easier than you think.
Step 1
Recognize that any negative feelings you have are causing your mood swings, says David D. Burns, author of "Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy" (see Resources). Your moods are created by your thoughts. Thinking good thoughts will lift your spirits and develop a daily positive outlook on life.
Step 2
Find out what is making you feel stressed out. Some stress is a necessary part of life. But when you are overly stressed it can cause physical and mental pain as well as depression. Once you discover the trigger or triggers, you can take on your stress. Focus on the top stress factor first, and then work your way down. If the problem is too overwhelming, talk to a close friend or visit a therapist who can advise you on simple ways to deal with the problem.
Step 3
Exercise to help your body and mind. Exercise is one of the best ways to deal with stress, according to specialists at Jamaica Plain Community Centers in Massachusetts. Getting active with brisk activity just three days a week for as little as 30 minutes each time can revitalize your body and energize your mind. You will feel healthier and more relaxed, making any outside obstacles much easier to tackle.
Step 4
Prioritize your activities. Cut back on the desires, chores and errands that you do not need to do immediately. Handle the most important job first. The others will be there, but worrying about them won't accomplish anything. You will do a much better job at accomplishing secondary tasks when it is best to do them.
Step 5
Spend some time on yourself. You are the best manager of your own time. So fill your head with self-help articles or books on the best ways to improve your life and the lives of the people you love. This will improve your integrity because your beliefs, values and convictions will be put into action. The correct results will follow.
Step 6
Handle hostility or criticism with understanding, but firmness. Let others have their opinions, but make your beliefs known. The goals you have are often the goals you share with others. Being civil will accomplish more than you have ever dreamed, and it will make you feel good.
Step 7
Focus on all the wonderful things you have in your life, from your family to talents you have been blessed with, to make you fulfilled. Remember that many people are far worse off than you. Your challenges are ways to make your life happier and the people around you better off.
Tips and Warnings
- Struggles and hard lessons are part of life. Without them, your days would be quite boring. Challenges will often be followed by your best times.
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