Like many parents, you may enjoy discussing a variety of topics with your child. However, discussions that involve sexuality may feel uncomfortable for both of you. Like other important aspects of growing and maturing, your guidance in this area provides a valuable tool. Your role as a parent allows you to instruct and advise your child on many important subjects, including topics that involve the birds and the bees and your child's own sexual development.
Step 1
Tell your toddler the names to use for all parts of his body, including reproductive organs. Although you may choose to say nicknames for the penis and vagina when your child begins talking, using the proper label helps your child speak about these areas without embarrassment or implied silliness. When speaking about anatomical features, use the same direct manner you use when talking about other body parts, such as elbows, feet, knees and noses. Discussing this topic in a matter-of-fact way encourages your child to form a healthy self-image, rather than feel shame or embarrassment over his sexual organs.
Step 2
Answer any questions your child asks as he grows and becomes curious about sexual development and reproduction. He may want to know where babies come from and why boys and girls look different. Provide age-appropriate answers, using basic language and words he understands. Focus your answers on his specific questions, making sure you understand what he is asking and that you provide an educational response. Use visual aids, such as diagrams, to answer his questions. Health brochures from your medical provider or books from the library can help your child understand his developing body, as well as the process of reproduction.
Step 3
Discuss everyday occurrences that involve sexuality. A neighbor's new litter of puppies provides an opportunity to talk about reproduction. A pregnant relative allows you to discuss the fact that a new baby is growing and getting ready for birth. Talk about situations on televisions shows you watch together. Use these situations to share your values and principles regarding sexuality. Explain how you feel about sex and share any personal morals or religious teachings you wish to convey to your child.
Step 4
Ask your doctor or public health clinic for current information about sexually transmitted diseases and methods of birth control. These medical professionals can provide factual and up-to-date information in the form of brochures and pamphlets that you can share and discuss with your adolescent children. Present this as an interesting topic for discussion, allowing your child to ask questions and discuss concerns he may have about his own sexuality.
Things You'll Need
- Health brochures or books
