Sleeping and potty training are two of the biggest concerns for parents of toddlers. Children vary; what is right for one child may not be for another, so make sure that your problem isn't a normal individual difference from others' expectations before you seek a solution. And try not to worry. Toddlers pick up on anxiety, which can make the situation worse.
Common Sleep Problems
Sleep problems fall into three broad categories: going to bed; falling asleep; and staying asleep. These issues may affect the total amount of sleep your child receives, but more commonly the disruption adversely affects your own sleep needs and the household routine, rather than your child's well-being. A toddler requires 10 to 13 hours of sleep a day and may be making some of this up during nap times.
Some Sleep Solutions
Consider reducing or removing naps. Minimize excitement and noise at bed time; your toddler won't want to miss out on fun. Deal with fears or discomforts---a night-light can help. Provide a comforting toy to talk to in the night, or say that you will look regularly, but only if your toddler stays in bed. Make rules and stick to them, rewarding the good behavior with attention and praise. Above all, curb your own anxiety---it's contagious.
Common Potty Training Problems
Often a child will say they don't need to use the potty or toilet when asked, followed by an accident. Some toddlers may refuse to use the potty at all, or will use it for urination only, retaining bowel movements. Kindergarten-aged children may use the potty or toilet successfully at home but refuse at school. Some children, once successfully potty-trained, may regress and begin having "accidents" again.
Some Potty Training Solutions
Avoid confrontations, and look for the cause. It may be too soon for potty training. A toddler who is physically ready will be staying dry for at least two hours and waking dry after naps. Consider environmental factors: Is your child too engrossed in play to want to stop? Try regular potty breaks between activities. Is the bathroom at kindergarten frightening or different? Anxiety and change, including life events such as moving house or losing a pet, can cause temporary regression. Patience will solve this one.
Ask the Doctor
Most sleep and potty training problems are temporary, but occasionally there may be an underlying medical cause. Consult your doctor if your toddler is having ongoing nightmares or seems permanently sleep-deprived. While potty training, ask your doctor if your toddler seems to be in pain or discomfort.
