According to the AARP, 43.5 million adults take care of an elderly relative or friend. The most typical scenario is a woman in her 40s caring for her mother. As caretakers of elderly mothers, women often feel a mixture of emotions. Along with the gratification of caring for the women who met their own needs as children, adults caring for elderly mothers often deal with stress and depression. If you are your mother's caregiver, taking steps to care for yourself is essential as well.
Step 1
Maintain your physical health. The Utah Coalition for Caregiver Support recommends daily exercise to help keep you healthy and to improve your state of mind. In addition, eat a variety of healthful foods such as fruits and vegetables, drink a sufficient amount of water and take a daily multivitamin. Taking care of your own health better prepares you to take care of your mother.
Step 2
Attend a support group. The Office on Women's Health suggests finding a support group for others coping with the same issues, such as a parent with dementia. Doing so will provide you with a safe environment to vent emotions and help you learn new ideas on coping with the situation.
Step 3
Encourage your mother's independence. The U.S. Department of State states that fostering some independence will not only ease your burden as caregiver, but also improve your mother's mental state. Find responsibilities that are in line with her capabilities, whether that is helping with cooking and cleaning, watering the flowers, or reading to your children.
Step 4
Pamper yourself. The Office on Women's Health suggests scheduling time with family or friends, going to see a movie or doing something that you like to do at least once each week. Doing so will help you relax and prevent feelings of resentment toward your mother.
Step 5
Ask for help. Delegate chores to family members. Request that your siblings or others step in to relieve you on occasion. The Utah Coalition for Caregiver Support recommends contacting your local Administration on Aging office to find respite or adult day care providers. If you ever feel you are not qualified to care for your mother, find out about other options such as in-home assistance or elder care homes.
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