Sources at Mental Health America note that bullying in schools can include behaviors like spreading rumors, targeting another individual with teasing or social exclusion. While gossip and exclusion are more subtle forms of bullying that create an imbalance of power in which the victim often feels unable to defend himself. Bullying is often a result of an individual's frustration with circumstances in his own life, and it is often difficult for peers to speak up and stop the behavior. Parents should communicate openly with teens and consult directly with teachers and other parents if bullying occurs.
Step 1
Communicate daily with your son. The National Mental Health Information Center suggests that individuals who are being bullied may often benefit from open communication with parents. Parents should take time each evening to check in about the day's events and express concern for the teen's well-being. These conversations do not have to be lengthy, but letting a teen know he has support can be essential as he works through social issues. It is also important to take time to discuss positive accomplishments, friendships, or events because this can often help the teen gain perspective on the issues.
Step 2
Teach your son to be assertive with peers who bully and tell him how to avoid negative social interactions. Sources at Mental Health America note that many young people benefit from learning how to be assertive in difficult social situations. It's important that teens know how to express their feelings in an appropriate way, and that they know how to manage conflicts in a respectful manner. For example, if a group of peers are spreading gossip, it is important not to participate because it can often involve the individual in unwanted social conflicts.
Step 3
Learn about the use of technology and ensure that your son is not using text messages, social media sites, or email to socialize in inappropriate ways. According to Robert Preidt, an contributing writer for "HealthDay News," bullying that includes acts of social exclusion and gossip can often develop into a more serious issue via the use of electronic messaging. Parents should monitor a child's use of the Internet, cell phones, and camera or video equipment to ensure that the acts of bullying do not extend into cyber-bullying.
Step 4
Consult with a school's Parent-Teacher Association and student support staff. Sources at Mental Health America suggest that parents participate in Parent-Teacher Association meetings and other school events. By networking with other parents and school staff, parents can help ensure that clear rules against bullying are being enforced in the school setting. Communicating with other parents about teen social issues and parenting skills can also be a valuable source of support. Parents should monitor their teen's behavior and seek additional support from a school counselor or administrator as needed.
Step 5
Encourage participation in a new activity, club, or sport. Sources at Mental Health America note that bullying can result in increased stress levels and social difficulties. When a teen is being teased or excluded it is often helpful to encourage him to focus positive energy on activities and friends he enjoys. In many cases, youth may explore a special activity, such as athletics, art, or music and this often builds self-esteem and fosters new social connections.
References
- KidsHealth.org: Dealing With Bullying
- National Institutes of Health: Bullying
- Robert Preidt, "Healthday News", Cyberbulling, 'Sexting' Major Problem for School Kids, August 20, 2010
- National Mental Health Information Center: 15+ Make Time to Listen - Take Time to Talk
- Mental Health America: Bullying and What to Do About It
