Quick Guide To Sensual Massages For Your Husband

Giving your husband sensual massages allows him to receive essential loving touches, and it may also provide emotional benefits. "Once a man feels free to relax into receiving a sensual massage, not only is he nourished by his partner's loving, tender touch, he is also more able to tune into and accept his more vulnerable and sensitive feelings," says Nitya Lacroix, author of the book "Sensual Massage: An Intimate and Practical Guide to the Art of Touch."

Preparation

Before giving your husband a sensual massage, prepare a space for the massage to take place. The ambiance you create should feel like "a sanctuary, somewhere away from the pressures of everyday life," says Marcus Salnicki in the book "The Art of Sensual Massage: Techniques to Awaken the Senses and Pleasure Your Partner." Salnicki suggests turning up the heat to create a warm and cozy space. Dim the lights, or use large and round "masculine" candles. Stay away from feminine floral scents and instead burn woody, earthy and spicy oils or incense such as sage, sandalwood and rosemary. Use earthy, masculine scented massage oil as well. Cover the bed or massage surface with fabric and pillows in dark, rich colors.

Considerations

"Men are sometimes uncomfortable about being passive recipients of pleasure," says Eve Salinger in the book "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Pleasing Your Man." A man may feel shy about "letting go," or he may feel guilty that he's not working or otherwise being productive, notes Salinger. To get your husband loosened up, start by suggesting a simple back rub. Stroke his neck, shoulders and back. Once he's more relaxed, ask if he'd like to take it to the next level by lying down and removing his clothes.

Techniques

Push with your whole hands to perform a long gliding stroke called the "roll it," suggests Patti Britton, author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Sensual Massage." Push and roll your palms up and down or across his body, and keep your rhythm slow. Repeat this stroke about 15 times, and remember that the slower you go, the better it feels. To perform a "kneading" technique, lift and squeeze your husband's muscles between your thumbs and fingers, and use your knuckles to apply pressure to especially tight muscles. Vary the intensity of the massage by rubbing your fingertips in small circles, or use your fingernails in slow and gentle sweeping motions.

Pleasure Points

In addition to the groin, ears, lips and nipples, men in particular have a few other spots on their bodies that feel especially pleasurable when touched, notes Salinger. Caress his jawline with your fingertips, and make small circles around the area surrounding his nipples. Stroke the muscles beginning at the outer edge of his armpit and follow the muscles down the side of his body. Stroke the inside of his thighs, and use your palm to apply gentle pressure to the area at the base of his spine, just above the tailbone.

Feedback

People respond differently to massage techniques depending on what kind of touches they enjoy. Ask your husband which massage techniques feel good to him, and respond to what his body tells you as you massage him. If you feel his body tensing up or pulling back, try a different technique. If he moans with pleasure, keep going. Remember the strokes and techniques that your husband especially likes so you can modify and improve your sensual massages in the future. With time, you'll begin to learn the specific strokes that will "turn your man to putty in your hands," says Salinger.