The most common reasons people lie about using drugs is to avoid trouble and to deny the existence of a problem. To make anyone who is using drugs to admit his habit, he must first feel like he is secure and around people he trusts. Before confronting a loved one about drug use, make sure your suspicions are well-founded.
Step 1
Observe but do not interfere. Accusations founded on no clear evidence can ruin relationships. Even if your loved one is using drugs, drastic action could make it seem like you are the enemy. In trying to help anyone struggling with substance abuse issues, making sure they understand you are there to help is crucial.
Step 2
Look for physical signs of drug abuse in your loved one. According to the American Council for Drug Education, drug use often manifests as changes in how a person looks. The council lists changes in appetite, weight, sleeping habits and physical condition as signs of possible drug use. Other physical signs included in the council's list are changes in pupil size, redness of the eyes, blushing, paleness, needle marks, nausea, vomiting and tremors.
Step 3
Survey any changes in your loved one's behavior. Much like with physical signs, drug abuse has many behavioral symptoms. The American Council for Drug Education also lists behavior such as increased secrecy, changes in friends or hobbies, missing school or work, drops in grades and borrowing more money as possible indications of drug use. Signs of illicit drug use may not be obvious. TheAntiDrug.com lists less overt signs like possessing items associated with hiding drug use or things used to consume drugs. These include eye drops, paper bags, pipes, rolling paper, chemicals that can be inhaled, mouthwash or breath mints.
Step 4
Talk to your loved one. If you've already done this, try doing it again. Try not to seem accusing or sound like you are preaching. Arrange so that the talk would happen somewhere familiar for your loved one. Make sure she feels comfortable enough to talk to you. If she refuses to talk to you, get someone else, preferably a responsible friend or a figure of authority she respects, to hold the conversation.
Tips and Warnings
- The process of helping someone with substance abuse problems is easier with the support of a group. Try getting others involved in helping your friend.
- Drugs are harmful to the health of those who use them. Arranging for a withdrawal period should be done quickly and under the supervision of medical professionals.
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