Drug abuse is a cunning disease that is characterized by sneaky behavior, denial and loss of control, reports addiction counselor Bill Urell. As their addiction progresses, substance abusers often take great pains to hide their usage in an attempt to avoid consequences and as part of the denial system they work so hard to build. There are hidden signs that husbands and wives of addicts can watch for however to find out the depth of the drug use and when they may need to intervene or take other measures to protect the family.
Finances
Drug dependence is an expensive habit that eventually will impact the family finances, report doctors at the Mayo Clinic. Finding unexplained deficits in the family's bank accounts can signal drug abuse in a marriage. When jewelry, silver and other valuables start disappearing, a spouse may be pawning or selling the items to get money for drugs. People who are trying to hide an addiction to drugs may exhibit additional fears about finances.
Behavior
Sudden, unexplained changes in behavior can signal an increasing drug habit. Many people who become addicted stop taking care of themselves like they used to. A woman who previously spent considerable time on her makeup and hair may begin to let herself go, revealing pallor on her skin and limp hair. Men who previously attacked the weekend with fervor, playing sports or getting out in the yard may sleep in and lounge around the house with no motivation to move. Activities that previous excited an addict no longer provide happiness. Addicts using needles often begin wearing long sleeve shirts even in warm weather.
Physical Changes
According to Help Guide, a nonprofit resource site, physical changes that can indicate drug use include excessive sleeping or lack of sleeping, depending on the kinds of drugs being used. Drastic weight loss or weight gain can be a hidden sign of addiction. Addicts hooked on opiates or barbiturates may lose their coordination and ability to speak in a clear manner. They may be confused more often and have frequent memory lapses. Methamphetamine addicts will start having continuous dental problems. Various drugs affect the libido, causing them to shy away from having sex or showing any interest in marital relations.
Relapse
Once a spouse has gotten help and refrained from using drugs, a marriage remains in peril from a relapse. Relapse is a cornerstone of addiction, report doctors at the Mayo Clinic. There are a number of hidden signs that can be noticed prior to a relapse, allowing a family to prepare or take precautions. When the addict starts fantasizing and rewriting the past, he may be preparing for a relapse. Discontinuing regular 12-step meeting attendance or stopping medication and therapy can signal an impending relapse. Urell reports that addicts in danger of relapse often become more angry and frustrated while beginning to isolate.
