If you are the friend or loved one of a person who is depressed, you might be scared, worried, frustrated or even resentful. According to MayoClinic.com, many people who are depressed don't realize it, and may need help to get appropriate treatment. Depression is a medical condition, not a character defect, and it is important to remember this and to talk to a depressed person with compassion and respect. Encourage your loved one to seek treatment as soon as possible.
Discussion and Acknowledgement
The first and possibly most difficult step in helping someone you think is depressed is to have an honest but nonjudgmental talk with him. MayoClinic.com advises explaining to your loved one that you've noticed some signs of depression in his behavior, and discussing those signs. Emphasize that depression isn't his fault, any more than another medical condition, and that treatment often helps. Some people are ashamed of their depression, and may mistakenly believe that they should "get over it" on their own.
Treatment Support
Once your loved one has acknowledged her possible depression and agreed to seek treatment, you can further help her by offering to assist with arranging appointments. MayoClinic.com suggests helping her prepare a list of questions for the therapist or doctor, and calling to arrange the appointments. Often, a depressed person might feel embarrassed or unmotivated in terms of making therapy appointments. Health.com also advises offering to help your depressed family member or friend to manage any medications she may have been prescribed.
Everyday Help
You can also offer your support to your loved one during everyday life. Make sure he know you're there to talk to or listen to him when he needs it. You can also encourage him to join you in recreational, social or sports activities that he may have enjoyed before becoming depressed. Also offer your assistance in terms of running errands or handling practical details of life, until he feels he can handle them on his own.
Moderation and Self-Care
Health.com cautions that you shouldn't help your friend or family member at the expense of your own well-being. While it's important to be there for your loved one during a difficult time, avoid "over-caring" which might cause the depressed person to feel helpless and you to feel resentful. Take time to care for yourself and your own needs, and allow your friend or loved one to get stronger with treatment and support.
