While adolescents' use of some drugs has fallen in recent years, young people are still experimenting with substances. A teen's ability to foresee the consequences of his behavior does not necessarily develop at the same time as his potentially risky behaviors. Fortunately, research has shown that making the time to talk to your teen about drug use can be effective in helping them navigate the potential dangers.
Step 1
Load up on information. Before you have the conversation, gather as much information as you can on the topic. "Because I'm the parent, that's why!" likely isn't going to be enough to make your talk productive. Piquing her interest with some facts lets her know you are serious about the topic and you want her to be too.
Step 2
Be clear on the message you want to impart. It might be that you are okay with her experimenting, or perhaps under no circumstances do you feel it is right for her to use drugs. Whatever you decide, stick to your message. Let her know what the consequences will be should she decide not to follow your rules.
Step 3
Schedule a time to talk. Turn off the cell phone and do what you can to minimize interruptions. Carving out some time to discuss your fears and concerns and solicit his feedback shows you are taking the discussion seriously.
Step 4
Be objective. Quote unbiased, scientific facts about what drugs do to adolescent brains, bodies and behavior. This approach allows your teen to examine the information in his own way. If you provide the facts and some personal opinions, your teen may feel empowered to make healthier choices.
Step 5
Talk about the possible unintended consequences of taking drugs, like fights with friends or unwanted or unprotected sex. Help her think through the possibilities so she can see the possible effects of her actions on her life.
Step 6
Arm yourself with resources. Don't leave your teen with no one else to talk to. Suggest she talk to a family friend, school counselor or local organization if she does not feel she can come to you.
Step 7
Talk with your teen often. The more you talk, the more likely your child will know you are safe to talk to about the topic. Initiate conversations about how drugs and alcohol are portrayed in the media.
