How to Cope With Loved Ones That Are Losing Their Memory

Overview

Consistent memory loss in an older person can signal a disease such as Alzheimer's or another form of dementia. It's tough on the individual who has the disease, but it's nearly as difficult for those who have to watch and support their loved ones as they lose memories they once both shared.

What to Do

Step 1

Get a diagnosis and treatment. When you first spot signs of memory loss, it's critical to have a doctor diagnosis any problems and start treatment. Many types of memory loss don't have cures, but medications can slow or delay the progression of the disease. The earlier you spot the problem and begin medications, the better the prognosis for your loved one--and the better you'll feel.

Step 2

Learn about their illness. You'll feel more capable of helping your loved one if you know what you're dealing with. You'll also be better able to prepare for the road ahead if you're educated about the illness and its progression. You can make plans far ahead of time for long-term care and legal documents such as a durable health-care power of attorney.

Step 3

Offer support, encouragement and love. You might feel at a loss because you don't know what you can do for your loved one who is declining. To make yourself and your loved one feel better, be there for her. Do activities that you both enjoy and help out around the house with tasks that have suddenly become difficult or confusing, such as paying bills or preparing meals.

Step 4

Get help and support for yourself. When a loved one suffers from memory loss, it lays physical and emotional burdens on others. Don't focus entirely on your loved one and his needs. Talk to friends and family, and maybe even a counselor about your feelings. Involve other family members in the care and responsibility of your loved one--don't try to shoulder the whole burden yourself.