Purpose of Counseling
Couples usually attend marriage counseling because they have an emotional problem in their relationship that they want to resolve. An event may have occurred that put stress on the marriage, like a death, a birth or a spouse's infidelity. There may be problems with finances or employment, or partners may just feel generally stressed and unhappy. A wife (or husband) may attend marriage counseling alone, if her spouse declines to come or if she wishes to discuss issues one-on-one. Some counseling patients aren't even married but want counseling to smooth out any issues before they wed.
During Sessions
During marriage counseling, both members of the couple speak with a therapist. The therapist is usually specially trained and licensed as a marriage and therapy specialist. He or she helps the couple discuss their problems and find ways to work toward alleviating or solving them. Sometimes the therapist also acts as a mediator between two halves of a fighting couple. Appointments are usually once a week for a period of a few months, although couples who are having severe problems may need to attend marriage counseling for longer periods of time.
Finding a Therapist
Marriage counseling is an investment of your time, so take some time to look for a good counselor. A doctor or psychiatrist can often refer you to a marriage counselor. If you are religious, you may be able to find a marriage counselor through your place of worship. If you're looking, try marriage counselors who have been in practice for a while. The most important part is that you feel comfortable with the counselor. If you don't feel connected after the first meeting, it's a good idea to move on.
